Tips For Online Dating

With technology changing the way we live, it’s no surprise that it’s also changed how we look for other people.

Online dating is a big thing now, with people flocking to sites like in order to find the one to fill the void in their hearts. A bit cheesy, admittedly, but it’s still the reason why people head for dating sites, one way or the other. So with online dating changing how we connect to other, how do we behave in such an environment?

Anna Post, granddaughter of etiquette expert Emily Post, has some advice on the matter.

  • Be yourself.
    • Again with the cheesy lines, but hey, they say what needs saying. At the end of the day, your persona online needs to come to terms with reality, and align. You have real life friends you’re friends with online, and you’re honest with them. What’s stopping you?
  • Neutrality is key.
    • Most people tend to avoid others when they disagree with their opinion. As such, it’s best to keep any statements you make on social media as neutral as possible. Unless you’re so fervent in your belief in them that you’ll blurt them out in front of a large audience.
  • Remain consistent.
    • While you behave more professionally on LinkedIn, and more casually on Facebook, you still want to make it clear that those two profiles of yours belong to the same person. No playing Jekyll and Hyde, no saying stuff on one profile about another that goes ‘I don’t know this person’.
  • A date, not a pen pal.
    • Sending e-mails to someone you meet in a site like is expected, after all you want to get to know who you’re looking to date. But keep them minimal, somewhere around 4, definitely not in the double digits. The plan is to meet the person, not turn them into an online pen pal.
  • Find common interests.
    • Remember those e-mails? You want to make the most of them. Get to know the person you’re looking to date. Don’t make too much of a deal on physical appearance, don’t go into politics, don’t tread on any subject that’s touchy. Focus instead on common stuff, things you both relate to and enjoy, in order to help connect and find something to do on your date.